There are a numerous good reasons for desiring to be a part of a marriage relationship. Just about everyone thinks about getting married at some point in their lives, and many go ahead and do it. Unfortunately, of those that wed, about half will rethink that decision and eventually divorce. Interestingly, however, a majority of the divorced spouses end up marrying a second time, and some even going for more than three times. There must be something about marriage that keeps people coming back for more. Marriage is not an invention of man but was designed by God for the benefit of man.
It should be recognized, however, that marriage is an option, not an obligation. There are some who choose not to marry, and they seem perfectly happy and well-adjusted as single people. Others, who desire to marry, simply have not discovered a suitable prospective mate, and, with patience, they choose to wait…….sometimes indefinitely.
It is possible, however, for men and women—young or older—to feel pressured to marry. Hence they oftentimes enter this sacred union rather impulsively, without due diligence and consideration for their eternal interest, and thus for a variety of wrong motives. Such a rash judgment can prove catastrophic.
Marriage is an “until-death-do-us-part” commitment. It must be approached from a joyous, yet cautiously-solemn, vantage point. Marriage should be embraced for wise reasons, not foolish ones. Let us reflect momentarily upon some of the not-so-wise motives for marriage;
1. Money/Financial gain:Some people marry solely to improve their financial status and to escape their current financial situations. This is perhaps the most selfish reason to marry someone. Marrying for financial gain is a recipe for disaster and will almost always result in divorce with serious ramifications. Money cannot buy love neither can it guarantee happiness.
Marriage is about commitment. A serious commitment between two people should never be taken lightly. Make sure you are marrying for the right reasons. Don’t be fooled by Hollywood’s fictitious exotic stories of the young girls who marry rich guys and end up living in splendid luxury. Such cases are rare, of course, and the happiness sought in such arrangements is rarer still.
Yes, in today’s turbulent economy it is absolutely true that a handsomely paid spouse can make a difference on the family budget. All things being equal, most people can financially support themselves adequately with a single job that pays sufficiently. But what happens when your employer goes out of business or you develop a life-threatening illness that costs your job? While marrying for financial gain shouldn’t be desired, it does help to marry someone with income potential, knowing that within marriage, couples help each other through tough times, financial difficulties included.
Many young women grow up with the idea that they should pursue a relationship with a man who has LOTS of money. Apparently the reason is that instinctively women become more concerned about economic stability and financial security very early in life. This explains why a young lady would rather be married to a rich old guy than a young professional who just graduated from college. She sees the financial security promised by the old man’s riches but does not see the financial potential in the young college graduate.
Well, if financial security is top on anyone’s agenda, then I recommend five things; (1) Seek God, Trust and be faithful to Him. “So do not worry, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” Matthew 6:31-33 (NIV). (2) Get a good education, probably a graduate degree in a profession that is relevant to the 21st century. But remember there are many educated fools out there "The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.” Proverbs 9:10 (NIV) (3) Seek a partner with the same educational and professional goals, not a lazy, good for nothing TV, Internet or Video Game addict. (4) Together, get entry level jobs and work hard, honestly and patiently. (5) Monthly put away at least 10% of your income in a long term savings account or IRA. With the lord blessing and unless of course something catastrophic happens, you will soon discover that the wealth you build together brings you close together.
Many people today want the easy life overnight, but the easy life is not so easy, and it’s certainly not fulfilling. Getting married for financial gain is a faulty premise for a relationship. If anything, it will only open the door to much heartache, suspicion and strained relationships. Money can’t buy love, but canny men will always attempt to put on a show and deceive women into believing that they have money just to attract women towards them. Then there are the men who have money and use it to influence women. Either way the premise is on the same defective and deceptive principle.
Conversely a young lady from a not-so-well-to-do family, determined to have the “better life,” might be tempted to do whatever it takes to marry the rich man who is able to offer her economic stability and financial security. Such a bargain is a sorry basis for marriage, and she may soon learn well the heartbreaking lesson that a happy home is more than dollars and cents.
Wrong Reasons to Get Married